More Indicators — Moving Mom or Dad to Assisted Living

We gave you the FIVE ABSOLUTE INDICATORS for moving Mom or Dad to Assisted Living or Memory Care.

Below is a list of a few other things to look for when visiting your parents that may indicate it is time.  Life is not always black and white.  The indicators below may be triggers for you and your loved-one to start touring facilities and planning for the future.


Dementia, whether caused by Alzheimer’s Disease or Stroke or other is a progressive disease.  Though your loved one will have good days, the progress of the brain loss at the date of this writing (3/2016), cannot be stopped.

Face it and plan for this inevitable decline is difficult.  Facing it and making a plan will make the journey smoother and the change less stressful.

More Indicators    Moving Mom or Dad to Assisted Living

Time to plan for a possible move is now if you observe the following:

  • Are they no longer able to drive safely?
  • Do they get lost driving?
  • If they need to stop driving and no-one is available to help them get to places a couple times a week.

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  • Poor diet and weight loss.  This may be cured by meals on wheels, an in-home visiting cook, or someone to take them meals. If that doesn’t put the pounds back on then Assisted Living with regular meals and reminders may be just what your loved one needs.
  • You may observe that necessary household repairs are not done or that the lawn care is being neglected.

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You can keep your loved one in their home longer if you find outside help for many chores.

However, remember that the poor decision making skills kept them from seeking out help for these items themselves.  This is a key indicator they need more assistance with daily living.  Life in an Assisted Living Community will reduce their responsibilities, offer them social engagement, and be a safer and more enriching environment.

The best way to introduce your loved one to the idea of a move is to go tour several communities with the idea of planning ahead for the future.   Once they see how nice the apartments can be,  that they can bring some of their belongings with them.  Once they see the activities, the safety, the care and community available, they may feel more comfortable about the decision.


Change can be fun and exciting as well as challenging and difficult.  “The one thing in life that is constant is change,” said someone once.  When you see the signs that change needs to occur, embrace the change.

Five Absolute Indicators That It Is Time to Move Your Loved One into Assisted Living.

Five Absolute Indicators That It Is Time to Move Your Loved One into Assisted Living.There are many indicators that cognitive or physical decline is happening.  It is hard for adult children, spouses and siblings who may visit briefly to know when it is time to move their loved one into a safer and more social environment like an Assisted Living Community.

A diagnosis of dementia or a degenerative disease may happen while a person is still very able to handle most of the aspects of their lives.  So when is the right time, where is that invisible line?

Here are five sure signals that it is time.

  1. What’s that smell??? If your loved one who has always been clean is no longer attending to their personal hygiene, it is probably time for them to get some regular help with that.  If you have noticed a strong urine odor, or clothing is being worn multiple times without washing, it is probably time for Assisted Living.
  2. Lack of housekeeping. Check out the kitchen and the fridge when you visit.  Things to look for are a more-than-normal stash of spoiled food that has not been thrown away.  You may see dishes are undone and there is an un-characteristic untidiness.
  3. Even though you may set out their medications in daily pill boxes, they still lose track of medications. They forget to take them or take too large a dose.
  4. Trouble getting to the bathroom or moving around the house. … Falling — sometimes families install a necklace alert that the elderly person can push if they fall or get into trouble.  But if you loved one is forgetting to wear the necklace or forgetting the purpose of it… time to move to Assisted Living.
  5. Is she or he no longer making sound decisions or observations? For example, when the phone rings, are they able to answer in a timely manner?  Are they able to tell a solicitation call from another kind of call?  Are they becoming vulnerable to scam artists?  Do they forget to turn off the stove or the water faucet?   Are they able to make a phone call?

Five Absolute Indicators That It Is Time to Move Your Loved One into Assisted Living.Those five are absolutes.  There are other indicators that may also trigger the need to move into a caring community.  If your loved one is in the early stages and you don’t see these absolutes, now is the time to tour homes and decide where would be the best place.

Planning ahead will make the transition smoother and you may be able to include you loved one in the decision earlier on.  Be sure to choose a facility with secure memory care, like Kiva Assisted Living.  The units are designed for comfort and safety and the staff have training on assisting in a compassionate and effective manor.

Contact us at Kiva for a tour and start you plan for when you see one of the five top indicators.